What's your problem with her, anyway?

It's understandable for you to crave attention from the opposite sex . I'm not here to talk about the understandable matter. I'm talking about the fact that some, some girls, are going out of their way to slut-shame those who get the attention.

You want people to understand the fact that you wanting attention is completely normal, right? What makes you think other girls should not get the attention you think you deserve? What makes you think that only you should get the attention from boys? Seriously, what makes you think she's a slut only because a boy you don't know (but would love to get some attention from) is into her instead of you?

You slut-shame her, claiming that a woman should be modest and reserved, that she shouldn't be the one flirting, that she's a woman and she should respect herself by not being so obsessed about men all the time. Well guess what? All that has nothing and also everything to do with you.

Nothing because she isn't touching your man and it's okay for a female to flirt. It's not dirty, it's not slutty or wrong. Nothing because it's none of your business. You only make it your business because you are annoyed watching her flirt with the man and totally getting his attention.

This has everything to do with you because you're jealous and insecure. The problem is not with her. It's with you. Men are the only thing on your mind, therefore you're always assuming that other women are trying to compete with you for his attention, that they just walk into a room, grab a guy and kiss him passionately to prove to you that they're more attractive than you are.

But guess what? Maybe she doesn't even care. Maybe she doesn't even know that in a corner, you're watching her every move, silently judging her and considering her an enemy, a rival. Maybe she's too busy having fun, too busy getting to know the guy to notice that there's another woman annoyed with the attention she gets. She just doesn't care, because attracting a guy and accidentally annoying a girl she doesn't even know who's desperate for some attention does not make her a slut.

Look, as much as you say a woman should not act like all the men are hers, you are subconsciously (or consciously) assuming that you possess all the men on this planet and therefore, every woman who approaches them with a friendly manner is trying to make you jealous, every woman who flirts with them is a hoe and every woman who wins them is a big, big slut.

If he isn't yours, if you're not interested in him, if you don't want a serious relationship with him, or maybe if you don't even know him, then why do you care? Why are you jealous with her?

Is it because you can't stand seeing another woman getting attention from a guy? Because to you, you should be the only one who gets all the attention?

She can't read your mind. She doesn't know what you want. She probably doesn't even know you're annoyed. And even if she did, it's still nonsense for you to want all the men for yourself. Don't hate her because she's a woman and she can attract the hell out of a man. You are too, and you can too. You just need to focus on yourself, bring out that attractiveness and femininity in you, instead of getting jealous with people you don't know.

Bottom line: Stop thinking that a woman's trying to compete with you for men's attention. Stop hating on her because you think she is. She might not even bother to compete in the game. If she isn't here for you or your man, either stand up, introduce yourself, be nice to her, or just leave her alone.