Alright folks, let's talk manners. A brief definition: Good manners, which are pretty much dying out in the teen world, are your appropriate ways of behaving towards others. Sounds neat, huh? Yes it does. And yes, you need to stop for a second and think about developing good manners for yourself.
You might be yawning, saying that manners are for your grandma's generation, that people don't use manners and therefore, they're okay with you not using yours. But just because they're okay with it, doesn't mean you have to be okay with it. Just because some people straight up act as if they were uneducated, doesn't mean you should be okay with making yourself look like them. They are called standards, and after all, right is right, wrong is wrong. Act and behave like an educated person.
Now, you probably think disciplined kids never make it in life, right? Part of it is true, but they're not unsuccessful because they're too good or too disciplined. They're unsuccessful because they're used to following the rules and being okay with not making changes and always going with whatever has been established for them. You don't have to be a goody-goody, or a teacher's pet. And listen, you don't have to break all the rules, to make fun of others, to put your feet on the table,...to prove that you're smart, you're cool and you're going to make it in life, either. Remember, insulting others, even just for a laugh, is not cool. Bumping into someone and walking away as if nothing happened is not cool. Interrupting people while they're speaking to tell a joke that just crossed your mind is not cool. I truly believe that a girl with good manners knows how to get what she wants.
So girls, remember, being mean is not attractive. It just shows your ignorance and lack of respect for others. You can be real ladies, doing everything with grace, self-respect and being thoughtful of others. There's something about having good manners and being a lady that makes the mean girls fear you, because inside, they know you choose to rise above them with your good manners, which makes you a thousand times more attractive than them.
Behave right. Don't speak too loudly, don't interrupt others, don't humiliate or embarrass others in public. You know well enough to behave like a well-spoken, well brought-up lady. Manners might not make you look cool, neither might it get you an invitation to join the popular girl gang, but they get you respect from others. You can choose to be the person you want to be, and deep down, you are probably not okay with bad manners, with being mean and rude to others. Deep down, you know that right is right, wrong is wrong, and the wrong behavior is not cool. Rise up to your standards. You are under no obligation to lower them trading being a lady for being girls who are known to be cool for doing the wrong things.
Manners are for everyone. Some time soon, you're going to be a lady out there making a difference in this world. So start acting like one now. Be well-mannered. Be the lady.
Remember this saying: "Girls want attention, women want respect".
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